What If?

What if people could peacefully agree to disagree?
What if we could learn to deal with our insecurities as opposed to projecting them onto others?
What if we traveled more?
What if we lived life fearelessly?
What if we could see the good in others?
What if I had a Ferragamo hook up and didn't have to pay retail?
What if all the really good musicians and artists were in heavy rotation on mainstream radio?
What if it didn't take him playing a thug for Denzel to get that Oscar?
What if I could ride the Tube without fearing for my life?
What if I we were all truly free?
What if we talked more?
What if we were REALLY aware of our surroundings?
What if we lived in the moment?
What if we didn't allow our past to dictate our future?
What if we loved like a child?
What if we took time to nurture ourselves?
What if we didn't pretend?
What if we strived to have joy, instead of just being happy?
What if we didn't make excuses?
What if we spent as much time doing as we did talking about what we're going to do?
What if we didn't hide behind facades and masks?
What if those Manolo's were in a size 10?
What if we took time to enjoy the simple things?
What if we lived life on our own terms?
What if I had every color of MAC lip glass?
What if I wasn't afraid to approach that brotha I saw in the West End last week?
What if we didn't base our decisions on the acceptance or opinions of others?

What if.....We didn't have to ask what if?

PosB

Release

I release all disappointment from my mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional bodies. For I know that Spirit guides me, and love lives inside me. That's why today I take life as it comes...
India Arie - Voyage to India


Sometimes, you just have to release. People, circumstances, failure, bad attitudes, the list goes on.

At some point, you have to make a conscious decision to let go of the toxicity and negative energy that comes from unhealthy interactions. No one should be allowed to place you in a state of confusion or unrest. We each have varying levels of tolerance, so what might be my breaking point, could be totally different from yours, so it's up to of us to make the call of what that means to us individually.

It's difficult to go through the process of relasing someone from your space, because there's usually some sort of emotional attachment involved. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not just referring solely to intimate relationships. This sentiment reigns true for friendships, business relationships...even family members have to be put in a space in our lives and left there.

I received a distressing email from an old friend recently. And, it really put me in a place of confusion. I had to make a choice at that moment of how I would react. Of course the highly charged emotional side of me wanted to immediately call and give her a piece of my mind. So I had to take a step back, and really evaluate what that relationship meant to me. Yes, this individual was at one time somone that I could count on, yes we'd shared lots of good times together. But, there were also times where the relationship proved emotionally draining and taxing. I had to take a long hard look at this and make a decision. Would I try to work through the issues, or is it even worth it?

Well, I made the decision to release her. It's not an easy thing to do. And certainly, this doesn't mean that I'll never speak with her again, or not be cordial if we were in a social setting. But it does mean that I won't allow negativity or drama to infiltrate my space.

If the process of release was easy, it wouldn't hurt so much, and certainly, it wouldn't warrant the amount of thought that goes into the how's or why's you ask yourself when making the decision. But nevertheless, it has to be done.

Our peace of mind, sanity, and overall well-being lies with us and no one else. It's not anyone's responsiblity to ensure that you remain in a positive mindset. In fact, I would almost say that it's dangerous to be dependant upon another human being for anything, happiness included, that should come from within you.

So with that said, I invite...no, I implore you to release anything and anyone that would cause you stress, strain, and uncertainty. It's not an easy task, but it's one you'll be better off for in the long run.

Until next time,

PosB

Let's Face It

I was always taught that to be the epitome of a so-called 'strong Black woman' I needed to have a stiff upper lip, my game face in tact, a polished demeanor, and most of all I was never ever allowed to let 'them' (whoever that may be) see me sweat.

As I look back over various times and spaces in my life, I wonder if that sentiment has actually done more harm than good?

Why should I walk around as if everything is ok knowing full well that inside...I'm dying, literally. Who made the rule that in order to be society's definition of strong, that I had to show absolutely no emotion in the face of adverse situations? Why do my Caucasion counterparts get a pass when it comes to having an emotional breakdown? When will I be afforded the same opportunity to just go into the ladies room and have a moment?

I'm realizing that I can't continue to hold the weight of the world on my shoulders and be expected to give 100% to work, family, school, etc. I can't internalize my struggles and put my game face on any longer.

So today, I'm gonna face it.

Whatever' it' may be...insecurities, past failures, current defeats, the fear of not 'having it all'...Whatever 'it' decides to manifest itself as, I'm going to face it.

I won't be bound by 'it.' I won't hide 'it.' In fact, I might even talk about 'it' with my girls the next time we have one of our waiting to exhale/conquring the world/being all that we can be sessions.

I don't have to hide behind a facade of so-called grace under fire. My emotions were given to me for a reason. So, who am I to hide what I'm really feeling on the inside? Why wait for the next installment of PMS to have a melt down?

I can be strong and weak at the same time. Vulnerability doesn't mean weakness. In fact, there's a strength in having the ability to be real about where you are in your journey.

So, starting right now, from this moment on...I'm facing 'it'...

Join me!!

PosB

So the story begins....

Hello world!!!! I'm Positivblk...and I want to welcome you to my world. I've contemplated the idea of blogging for quite a while,but for whatever the reason, I just didn't heed the call. Well, today....the story begins.

I was talking to a good friend in NY last night, and we were discussing the call to action we're both feeling at the moment. It seems like something's in the air...a wind of change is blowing, and we both want to heed what the universe is speaking to us.

It is in that vein that my blog was created. We each have a calling and a destiny that was framed before the world began. Now...we have trials, tribulations and circumstances that might cause us to be temporarily sidetracked, but hopefully, we rise, and continue to walk in who/what we are called to do.

I truly believe that we all have a story to tell. Whether or not that story is always full of triumph and victory is really up to us. I hope you can find something to relate to in my future posts. Something that will make you laugh, maybe cry...who knows. But most of all, I hope you experience your own personal call to action to be the best you can be. Join me on this journey...it's certain to be a helluva ride!!

More to come....

PosB